Truth about internet dating
About herself, she writes on her profile: "I have really high and perhaps unreasonable expectations for romantic and platonic relationships — desiring immediate, deep intimacy, understanding and affection while substantially withholding each myself."Prusa divulges that she is looking for a male with a large, uncircumcised penis, and that "on a typical Friday night" she is generally "out" and, if she’s not connecting with people, she tends to "get bored, drink more than I should, or take drugs" which sometimes leads to "bad decisions like having unprotected sex with strangers."Prusa’s idea was to combine the negativity and honesty that’s reserved for offline conversations with the transparent accountability of a personal profile, and see how men would respond to this "absurd" level of intimacy.Many of the responses she received from men were in fact empathetic and appreciative of her willingness to bear her hang-ups.We men love to complain about how women have extraordinarily high standards when looking for a mate—however, we fail to look a little bit deeper at why this is the case.While women may get an ego boost when they receive 30-100 messages in any given week, nobody really wishes to have that much admin to sift through.Is it creating a new reality in which people actively avoid real-life interactions?Of course, others have worried about these sorts of questions before.Some of us may not even realize it, because our minds trick us into believing that we’re better than we really are.probably doing this too.
According to research, women who send messages to men are twice as likely to receive a response compared to men who start conversations.("Cute, but he clearly only shops at Urban Outfitters"; "She likes good music but her favorite book is Perhaps most of all, online dating allows you to present the cutest, smartest, and most dateable version of yourself to potential partners.The photo of you backpacking in Costa Rica shows your adventurous side, the Toni Morrison on your "favorite book" list proves your cultural literacy, the self-summary you provide illuminates your perfect balance of down-to-earth attitude and sharp wit."The Ok Cupid Honesty Project: An Exercise in Truth Telling," New York City artist Jessica Prusa explores this idea of online personaes using one of the most popular dating sites for young people.For the project, Prusa created an Ok Cupid profile for a nude, self-portrait themed art exhibition and filled in all the sections with the cringe-worthy truth.